Thursday, September 10, 2015


This past weekend I got married, which was an incredible experience on many levels. Josh and I chose an idyllic farmhouse on Long Island (circa 1820!), on four acres of property overlooking Conscience Bay. 

Our ceremony: no filter needed, the weather + setting were perfect! And yes, my flower girl is carrying a fairy wand.

From the second that Josh proposed last Christmas (and, let's be real, way before that!) I had accessories on the brain when it came to wedding attire. The clothing, I could have taken or left - I rarely wear dresses and generally invest very little in my outfits (because duh, how else would I pay for all the gems?!). I lucked out when I met the talented Amber Doyle, who made me the perfect, simple silk sheath in an ombré ivory-to-blush shade (my "something new") as background for my jewelry. I am generally NOT a pink person, but the color grabbed me as both romantic and kind of rocker, so I went for it, and I'm so glad I did!

Detail shot of the beautiful ombré effect of my dress.

I chose to adorn my entire right hand and keep my left hand as simple as possible. I love the way rings look with my tattoos, and I wanted to keep the focus on my wedding bands: an engraved gold and platinum band from our visit to Metier last summer, a french-cut sapphire and yellow gold eternity band from my friend Alison of Duvenay, and a simple, split 18k yellow gold band I picked up from an antique dealer here in NYC to round out the stack. 

The evolution of my wedding stack, as it developed over time. I wore three bands to represent past, present, and future.

On my right hand I wore my wedding present from Josh, a rosecut diamond, silver and gold cluster ring, circa 1860 (my "something old"). In the image below, it is flanked by my wedding and engagement rings - you can see how sapphires (his birthstone) are prominently featured! 

My wedding present from Josh, engagement and wedding rings.

In discussing my choices leading up to the day, a lot of people were shocked that I chose to mix metals, and cautioned me that I might look back at pictures and be disappointed I didn't keep it more streamlined. But I love gold! And platinum! And silver! And most importantly, I wanted to have fun with what I was wearing and stay true to my personal taste, not some idea or weird rule about what I should wear. I did try to edit a bit more than I normally do, in order to avoid looking too busy (compromise!). 

I also wore my mother's engagement ring from my father (middle finger, below), an 18k gold half-hoop style diamond band made of a mix of old-cuts that came from a ring of his mother's. She passed away when he was young, and I am named for her, so wearing it was my way of paying hommage to her. My ring finger sported my engagement ring, a 1920s platinum and Old Mine Cut diamond surrounded by a french cut sapphire halo - which also served as my "something blue". On my pinky I wore a Victorian mixed-cut diamond band; I recently sold it to my friend Kate of Heart of Solid Gold, so it made for a pretty and sentimental "something borrowed."

With symbolism already playing heavily into my jewelry selection, I chose to wear one of my favorite rings, a Victorian 14k gold and garnet snake ring, as the only other adornment on my left hand. Garnets are my birthstone, and I loved the idea of wearing them in addition to Josh's. I also loved the symbolism of fidelity that they offered, and the eternal snake/love motif made it an even more perfect choice. I wear this ring almost every day, so it was nice to look down on my wedding day and have something so familiar there to help me feel like myself. 

My rings, pre-ceremony.

Anyone who knows me also knows my long-time obsession with plants and their symbolism in jewelry, particularly for weddings! My bouquet, for example, incorporated wheat I had picked with my dear friend (and talented jeweler) Rachel Eardley for my cousin’s wedding last summer in England. I also used it to make Josh’s wheat boutonniere. Wheat was used commonly in Victorian weddings to symbolize prosperity, fertility and abundance. Victorian brides carried bouquets of it, and even tucked it in their veils!

In the English countryside picking wheat used for my cousin's wedding, and later for my own. 

My wild bouquet, picked from my mother's and friends' gardens.

My Victorian diamond + ivory wheat sheaf earrings were a happy accident that came together thanks to a generous gift from my friend Ishy Antiques. They were the first piece of wedding jewelry I bought, and at some point I got it in my head to try and jazz them up a bit from the simple gold earwires they came to me on. I searched high and low for the perfect stones to hang them from, and was thrilled when I came to own these diamond pieces off of a beautiful diamond and citrine brooch he was converting. Suspended from posts with the tiniest 14k jumprings, the old cut diamonds offered beautiful sparkle and movement and totally transformed the perfectly carved pieces of Ivory. I generally try not to play favorites with my jewelry but these were definitely the part of my outfit I was the most excited to wear, and it made them all the more special that they came together thanks to the generosity of a friend. I will without a doubt treasure them forever.

My old-cut diamond + Ivory wedding earrings.

Getting dressed and putting on my earrings for the first time.

I love looking back at pictures from the day and such beautiful statement earrings in almost every photo. Apart from their symbolism, they lent the most beautiful silhouette and helped tie my whole outfit together. I even chose not to wear a necklace (unheard of in my world!) to really let them shine. 

Me + my beautiful flower girl! I love how my earrings peek out in almost every photo.

Though not traditional jewelry, my crown of Myrtle leaves was another favorite piece I wore worth mentioning. After seeing a similar tiara style in a book, I tracked down New-Zealand based artist Anna Doezie of Anna Marguerite and commissioned a similar style. Myrtle has been used in weddings since classical times, where it represented a devotion to Aphrodite, the goddess of love. Later used in Hebrew weddings, my crown was based off of diadems popular in the Edwardian era, when brides wore brass versions as a symbol of love “that lasts beyond the grave.” 

Hellenistic paper-thin gold wreath circa 4th century BC Greece, via MFA Boston.

Detail shot of my crown!

The crown was a beautiful, unusual detail and really made me feel like I was dressed for a special occasion!

Speaking of accessories, mine weren’t the only ones of note! I carved a heavy, 8mm wide band in wax and cast it in platinum, Josh’s choice of metal, for his wedding band. I confess that this took place at 10 o'clock at night, 5 days before our wedding (priorities, ok?). Luckily, it turned out perfectly.

Me at my bench, carving Josh's wedding band in wax. 

The finished product. I'm a fan of wedding rings that make men look, as I refer to it, "very married."


Josh is a man who prefers minimalism when it comes to his clothing and accessories (clearly, opposites attract!). He kept it simple and accessorized his tailored Theory Suit with a vintage Van Cleef Arpels watch I gave him last Christmas and a small, sterling silver tie clip

Josh's accessories.  Note his wheat boutonniere!

My end-of-the-night, finally married #showmeyourrings!